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Human natures allows or even enables each of us to use our intelligence to build strategies that keep each of us from suffering from the greatest of heartaches, rejections or embarrassments. Some people use strategies that include pushing, hounding, whining, pleading or even lying. Most of the time, though, these methods backfire. Women develop strategies, as well, when it comes to attracting a man's attention or interest. Some women are fairly good at it. Some are not. And sometimes all it does is make the man nervous and uncomfortable. One such strategy that women use is actually bribery. It is not bribery like you typically think of it, but rather bribery where the woman tried to be since, helpful and basically indispensible to the man so that he will begin to fall in love with her and need her. The second common strategy that women use is called "compulsion". This is when a woman attempt to coerce a man into telling her he has feeling for her by expressing or confessing her own feelings for him. She thinks that if she pours it all out to him, he will naturally do the same to her and the relationship will really begin. The last common strategy women use is - sex. Many women will have sex with a man in order to create that "immediate relationship". Women think that having sex means they are IN the relationship. However, men do NOT think that way. Sex does not equal love or commitment to most men, so it just simply does not work. So exactly why is it that these strategies do not work, when they seem so intuitive to do? I mean, why wouldn't you be nice and do things for someone you want to attract? Why wouldn't you try to get him to talk to you about his feelings for you, or even have sex with you in order to make his realize those feelings? Unfortunately, these actions broadcast to a man in a much more subtle way than words - that you are afraid and possibly needy or frantic. I KNOW that is not what you are trying to accomplish. But that is what he sees in your attitude - and that is why these methods do not work when you are trying to attract a man. So what DOES work to attract a man? Well, one of the things that men certainly find attractive is a positive, confident and independent attitude. What this attitude will tell him is that YOU are not about to settle for just any man - you are worth his time and he better be worth yours. Your attitude can also tell him that that you will let no one control your life but you, and that you will leave anyone who attempts to trample your free spirit. In addition, you can try to show him with your attitude that you are not afraid to help him maintain his friendships with his buddies, and you will expect the same from him. You can show him all this - that you are not a follower or groupie - but that you are your own woman, with a great attitude. Begin adopting the outlooks that will display a strong, intelligent and independent woman and you will show men that you are a woman who will naturally attract men in lasting and meaningful relationships.
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